Thank you to all for your comments on the last post - they were very comforting.
My family held an intimate memorial service for my uncle yesterday, and that was, R tells me, extremely loving and soothing. I am so happy to hear that people could honour him properly. Now that my mother is finished the planning of that service - she was entirely wrapped up in it for three days - I worry about it all coming crashing on her shoulders. We shall see.
I am doing much better than I was. I was completely exhausted and grief-stricken for a couple of days there. Then my friend K arrived from Home City, for a visit. Which is a good thing - I think I needed the distraction it is providing.
So she is here, and we are having a lovely, wine- and food-oriented time. Probably too much wine, and I now kind of feel as if I have to detoxify! But it has been very, very nice.