Monday, January 21, 2008

Mr. K update

R took Mr. K to the vet this morning. He's a disaster. She's a complete mess. The vet doesn't know what is going on. He is at the vet for the day. They are doing a water deprivation test, to find out if it's Diabetes Insipidus (the rare, nearly untreatable form of diabetes). That test is terrifying, because if he has that DI, it can seriously harm him to be deprived of water. This whole thing feels like torture. There are other symptoms that make the vet think maybe it's something else...the not eating, some breathing problems, red eyes. They are getting an internal medicine specialist involved, and need to do ultrasounds to look for tumours. It doesn't look good, folks, no matter what. I didn't expect to be staring down these kinds of possibilities with a five-year-old dog. I don't even know what to do with myself. I think I may go home for the weekend. R is so stressed and so isolated. She's now full of guilt, berating herself. She needs some time off from this. I think maybe I need to go. I am showing a film in my Monday class next week; I could easily just get someone to show it for me, and would be able to be gone Thursday-Monday.

12 comments:

Maggie said...

Oh, dear. Go home and be with them... chances are you wouldn't be able to do anything remotely productive (or even healthy) if you stayed in Scary City (w/P) anyway. I'll be thinking about you and your lovely Mr K.

dbm/gaa said...

Oh hilaire, this is awful! Come home. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

Anonymous said...

Anon here again... I have been checking your blog constantly for updates on Mr. K and hoping against hope for a positive one. Oh HIlaire, I am so sorry to hear all of this. While I am fairly new to your blog and my 2 cents is probably not worth much given that I am anonymous, I too think you should go home. You need be with him and R, and mostly for yourself. Again, I am sorry about all of this and still hold out hope for a successful recovery for Mr. K.

Thoroughly Educated said...

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry! Do go home. We'll be thinking of all of you here.

kermitthefrog said...

I'm so sorry... good luck with Mr. K.

Belle said...

Yes. Go home, be with R and Mr K, and offer them love and support. All appendages crossed that they figure it out soon, and that's it is treatable and painless.

R's guilt is going to be hard; go hold hands and comfort. It works all ways.

Pantagruelle said...

I'm so sorry! Yes, if you can in any way swing it, do go home and spend time with R. and Mr K. It will be good for all three of you.

Psychgrad said...

I'm sorry to hear the less than positive news. I hope that whatever the problem is can be treated. My thoughts are with you and R. Keep us posted (I know you will).

Brigindo said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I definitely think going home is a good idea. It sounds like all three of you really need. Good luck.

Maude Lebowski said...

hilaire, i'm so sorry to hear about Mr. K. but don't give up hope. again, when the divine miss t was sick, the first couple of days the vet had no idea what was wrong. they did all kinds of tests and blood work. she was at the hospital for three days before they finally figured out that she had kidney and liver problems.the vet thought she had been poisoned with anti-freeze and they didn't know what to do, and she was about 6 at the time. so there's still hope. usually, when it comes to things, i'm a total pessimist, but when it comes to animals, i hope beyond hope that they pull through. i think you should go home and be with them. at the very least, you'd be in the same city when the vet calls with whatever news.

tell R not to beat herself up too much. she's doing/did what she can. and i'm sorry i keep using the comment space to talk about my dog, but it's just an attempt to try to ease your pain over this, that Mr. K can still pull through.

again, if you need anything--an ear or two or a contribution to a Mr. K Fund, just let me know.

i'll be thinking of the three of you!!

<3 and pets to all,
ml

Hilaire said...

Thank you, all. Again, I'm so touched by your loveliness...

Maude, thank you for the story of hope. It helps. R's suddenly really come around, too - I'm not sure why, but she is much lighter already. She evn viewed it as *funny* when Mr. K peed all over her duvet! This is a good sign.

What Now? said...

I'm so sorry to hear about the scary news on Mr. K. I'm glad that R is doing better, but I know it's horrible for you all, especially the waiting and the not knowing. Blessings to you all.